Relationship Therapy

People Turn To Temporary Solutions For Relationship Problems

For many people, underlying relationship problems are rooted in past trauma, which affects their nervous system and influences the way they manage conflicts. Yet they’re not aware they’re dealing with trauma, and they rely on distractions like substance use or endless scrolling for fleeting relief.

But turning to momentary distractions can’t address the physical tension they feel, or the associated triggers. These coping mechanisms distract people from what their bodies are trying to tell them, and as a result, they continue engaging in the same patterns. 

By talking to a therapist, you can address the root causes of your relationship troubles and find lasting relief from the emotional and physical effects of past trauma. In time, you’ll be able to show up authentically in romantic, platonic, familial, and professional relationships.

You Can Heal Your Conflicts Through Relationship Therapy

In my practice, I’ll help you tune into your nervous system so that you can engage in relationships without getting stuck in a state of anxiety or anger. You’ll deepen your knowledge of your inner emotional landscape, including your specific triggers and responses, and learn how to self-soothe, step away from intense conflicts to calm down, and take ownership of your feelings.

What To Expect In Relationship Therapy Sessions

I know that talking to a counselor about relationship issues and past trauma takes courage. During our first session, I’ll create an environment where you feel relaxed and comfortable, and we’ll take the first steps towards building a trusting connection and defining your long-term goals together. You do not have to talk about difficult events until you’re ready. Gradually, we’ll discuss major life events as well as important people in your life, from family members to romantic partners, who may have affected the way you approach relationships today.

In addition to addressing how past trauma has influenced your nervous system, we’ll delve into what you’re actually seeking in relationships, and how you can start focusing on forming bonds with people you’re truly compatible with. We’ll explore why certain quirks or character traits might remind you of past trauma and healthy coping mechanisms you can apply when you’re feeling triggered.

Treatment Approaches To Relationship Counseling

My approach to counseling combines several modalities to help you explore how past trauma can influence your relationships with others and heal the impacts of trauma on your mind and body.

Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy can be a powerful medium for identifying the different “parts” of your personality, and learning how these parts have developed as a result of different challenges and traumatic events. In time, you’ll be able to integrate these parts so that you embrace your whole self.

If you’re feeling “stuck” in your progress because of a specific traumatic event, I’ll guide you through Eye Movement Desensitization and Processing (EMDR) therapy. EMDR can help you process past trauma and foster harmony between your distinct parts. You’ll be prepared with EMDR techniques for self-therapy to calm your nervous system if you’re having a particularly tough day outside of sessions.

Somatic therapy deepens your mind-body awareness, allowing you to release emotions you’ve been holding on to physically. I’ll create a space where you can sit with these sensations rather than ignoring them, name your emotions, and engage in movement that feels healing and freeing.

Additionally, through polyvagal theory, you’ll be able to soothe your nervous system when you’re faced with a conflict, enabling you to stay collected and speak from the heart while holding space for the other person’s point of view. 

Together, we’ll enhance your self-awareness, creating a bridge between where you are now and where you want to be. You’ll be prepared to make choices that uphold your values, enabling you to build genuine relationships with people who accept you for who you are.

But You May Still Have Questions About Relationship Therapy…

Will therapy really help me improve my relationships, even if I attend virtual sessions?

Maybe you’re nervous about starting therapy, or you’ve tried therapy before with minimal success. Whether you choose in-person or virtual therapy sessions, you’ll be able to speak openly about your circumstances with someone who is not involved in your personal life. The connection between you and your therapist, often referred to as “the therapeutic alliance,” is crucial for making progress in counseling. In counseling, you’ll find support for tackling challenges, providing clarity and shifting your life in the direction you want to move.

I’m worried that I won’t be able to afford therapy.

Therapy represents an investment in your long-term wellbeing. I accept Etna and United insurance plans, and if I’m out of network, you may be able to submit a PPO waiver to your insurance company for coverage. Improved mental health, stronger relationships, and a deeper sense of fulfillment are invaluable, and many clients find that the personal growth they achieve benefits those around them, too.

Do you offer therapy for couples?

In my practice, I provide relationship therapy for individuals and couples. If you’re attending sessions with your partner, we’ll work together to uncover how your individual experiences with past trauma might be interfering with your bond as a couple. I’ll guide you in sharing your unique perspectives, adopting healthier approaches to conflict, and getting comfortable with compromise.

Therapy Can Help You Build Healthy, Meaningful Relationships

With guidance, you can transform the way you approach relationships, paving the way for deep, fulfilling connections. If you’re interested in relationship therapy, fill out my contact form or call my office at 469-209-9348 to book a free 15-minute consultation or schedule your first session.